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" A friend is one who encourages you to look deep inside yourself for the beauty and love you've been seeking."

- Thich Nhat Hanh

"A balm for my nervous system and soul. Like emotional shea butter."

When someone used these words to describe me recently, I had to laugh. I took it as a compliment, even though I believe that "balm" they were referring to -- the healing power of awareness -- is actually always available to us. I'm not here to smooth over your bumps, but to ride in the rapids with you for however long it takes for them to naturally pass. While I believe the most valuable source of wisdom exists within you, sometimes we need some support with accessing it. In a world wherein mental health is often stigmatized and hyper-individualized, I celebrate your courage and strength in reaching out for support.

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“There’s magic in being seen by people who understand — it gives you permission to keep going.”

- Alok Vaid-Menon

Making you feel safe and comfortable sharing the wholeness of who you are is of utmost importance to me. As a white, cisgender, female, sexually fluid, polyamorous, Buddhist, able-bodied, upper-middle class, and highly sensitive person, I'm aware that my experience is biased and limited by these identities. I am committed to doing my own work outside the therapeutic space to bring more awareness to the ways my privilege and conditioning perpetuate harm. I encourage you to ask me about my values, boundaries, and to voice whatever you're aware supports you in accessing more trust.

a mindful, relational, somatic, & liberation-based approach

What does this mean?

Mindful: For me, being mindful is about gently directing our attention to whatever we're experiencing in the present moment, and receiving it with kindness. 

Relational: As your therapist, I'm interested in exploring together how it feels to be with one another, viewing the therapeutic relationship as a portal and opportunity for examining how we relate to all of life. 

Somatic: Most people are waking up these days to the reality that healing happens through the body. By directing awareness to the body, and incorporating consensual, attuned touch when appropriate into sessions, we can tend to deeper parts of your being. 

Liberation-based: Holding a liberation-based frame means bringing awareness to the ways white-settler-colonial culture has harmed all bodies. I'm interested in supporting people with reclaiming their wholeness, by identifying and validating experiences of oppression. 

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Themes & challenges people tend to explore with me:

  • chronic invalidation & gaslighting 

  • relationship issues

  • harsh inner-critic & rigid mindset

  • religious wounding, spiritual emergency, & spiritual/psychedelic integration

  • meaninglessness & lack of purpose

  • recovery from high-control groups and relationships  

  • sexuality & identity exploration

  • non-monogamy, relationship anarchy, kink

  • creative expression

  • identity exploration

  • decolonizationreconnection to place, culture & lineage

Training

Birth Trauma and the Birthing Reflex – Relational Somatic Healing

Therapeutic Touch in Psychotherapy– Relational Somatic Healing

Therapy for Neurodivergent Clients – Nyck Walsh Therapy

Foundations in Somatic Abolitionism – Education for Racial Equity

Beyond Attachment  Relational Somatic Healing 

Professional Training Level 1 – Hakomi Institute

Trainee – Church Street Integral Counseling Center (Gestalt Therapy)

M.A. in Integral Counseling Psychology – California Institute of Integral Studies

Massage Therapy Certification – Cypress Health Institute

B.A. Cognitive Science – UC Berkeley

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If you Forget

by Rob Fisher

If you forget how beautiful you are
I will remember
 
I will remember your barefoot connection to the earth,
The risks you have taken.
And the compassion in your heart
I will remember the courage of your questions. 
And the tiny wrinkles that make your bright and shining eyes 
 
 
I will remember how you shine in your enthusiasm,
Your delicate embarrassment,
The passion and serious intensity
Behind your words.
 
If you forget,
Come with me. 
There is a path I know
High up on the mountain
And deep in the core of the rich black earth
Where we can drink together
From the pool of your tears,
And listen as the mountains echo
With the sound of your laughter
 
If you forget,
I will taste,
One more time 
The deep dark sweetness of your soul,
That wonderful essence that belongs only to you.
 
If you are tired,
Come rest in the warmth of my hands
and I will whisper
Stories of your greatness
in your ears.
Oh, how I am intoxicated by the flavors of your soul.

lily petroff -- she/her -- AMFT #136248

supervised by Vanessa Eyen, LMFT #81027

©2023 by Lily Petroff.

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